It took me until I was 35 years to finally feel comfortable telling the opposite sex about my condition.
The last woman I told ended up becoming my wife
As well, coming to terms with now being both bladder and bowel incontinent has been emasculating -- to say the least. I am thankful for finally meeting (and marrying) a woman who is understanding about my lack of control.
(Growing up in diapers wasn't so bad; but once I hit my 20's and started dating seriously, I was constantly teased and rejected (e.g. dumped) because of my incontinence. It really was hell).