35 year old male needs help with coping

[socalguy]

Hello,
a few months ago i was in a bad car accident that has left me totally incontinent.The doctors said that a nerve that runs along my spine was damaged and this particular nerve controls the bladder and bowel control. Well i just dont know how to deal with this. I just lost my job because i had to take a few extra breaks during the day to change myself and i have been told that my attitude has went down the tubes.Im just not happy at all anymore. Im still so depressed about having to wear diapers for the rest of my life,it feels like my manhood has been taken away from me. I have a very supportive girlfriend who i love dearly,she has been by my side through this whole dillema and im scared of losing her too.Just this last friday one of my best friends asked my girlfriend and i to come to a barbeque and after enough hounding me about it since normally i dont feel comfortable going anywhere scared my diaper might poke out or something,so we went and were just hanging out in his backyard when i dropped my phone,so i bent down to pick it up and i guess my diaper exposed a little and one of the guys just started cracking jokes at my expense trying to be funny by asking why i was never potty trained and refering to me as HUGGYBOY.I just dont know how to deal with all this

can someone help me please
thanks

[gtg2468]

Hey hun I'm sorry about that. The guy sounds like a real asshole. I know what it's like to be in those situations and have embarrassing moments. I have them all the time. Be strong and don't change who you are you can talk to me whenever you need to vent. That's what we are all here for. Take care.